Performing vs Being

Performing vs Being

June 19, 2024

The world is filled with performers.

A performer is someone who entertains an audience. Someone who acts a certain way to help others feel something. Performers often entertain to help others feel amusement, excitement and spikes of various emotions.

Performing is prevalent because humans crave entertainment. We crave external connection.

It’s just hard for us to stay bored and at peace. It’s hard for us to be with the silence, stillness and simple things.

It’s much easier for us to stay entertained and connected to something outside of ourselves. It’s easier to be with the noise, chaos and complicated things.

We’ve become conditioned to expect a performance.

From social media, to Netflix, to all the petty drama that fills our daily interactions. Performances are everywhere.

Some performances aim to teach, others aim to inspire, and others are just a product of human agenda or desire. People perform for so many reasons.

Performing is fine but it comes with a cost…

When you perform, you hide a part of your true self. You wear the mask and play the part. You seek external validation over internal validation.

Performing is in service to others.

In contrast, being is quite different.

Being is showing up authentically. It’s your natural way of operation. It’s exposing and sharing all your unique gifts.

Being is also the source of presence. It’s the design of human nature. You come as you are, not as the world expects you.

Being is in service to yourself.

When you choose to be, your service to yourself is the foundation for greater service to others. Being is the harder choice. It’s the path that aligns with your truth.

How often are you performing vs being?


Ali Jafarian

Ali is a creator and coach who's passionate about guiding people to their truth. That's a fancy way of saying he wants to help people realize their most authentic life. He's a family man, entrepreneur, conscious technologist, explorer, podcast host and many other things that inspire him to stay curious and learn. He's also a huge advocate for nature, hiking, adventure, testing physical limits and experiencing the natural world.